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Entertainment - Date: 01 July 2019
Written by: Mbulaheni Ridovhona / Viewed: 1651
People say no love is as real as first love. But if first love slaps the hardest, the first heartbreak cuts the deepest. Just as teenage love makes you think nobody can love you better, the first hurt makes you think nobody can ever love you.
Those are the words of Tintswalo Christian Nkuna, who recently published her first book, Single, Again.
After the heartbreak, Nkuna said, what follows is a feeling of worthlessness, bitterness and self-pity. "Add a child into the fray and what you have is a messy totality of co-parenting with the person who crushed you," Nkuna said.
The 29-year-old, from Ka-Nkuzana village, said Single, Again is a young woman's account of a high-school crush that turned into paradise, before allowing many relationships’ fate of lies, broken vows, separation, and starting over again. In the book, she invites readers to do introspection, blush, yawn, yell and break down with her as she revisits some of love's greatest misfortunes. "The book is about my personal journey from falling in love and having relationship dreams with my soulmate as a young girl to experiencing rejection in the comfort of marriage," she said.
"I share the difficulties I've faced in trying to make a marriage work and earn a man's love, having the strength to walk away from a relationship that no longer served me, and having to raise a child with a person who has hurt me the most," she said. “I talk about the challenges of being single again after a heartbreak, getting back in the dating game with baggage from a failed relationship, the challenges of purity as a child of God after marriage and my journey to forgiveness and wholeness," she added.
The 111-page book aims to reach out to people who are neglecting their dreams to run after love or pleasing other people and those who have been hurt and are struggling to move on. "I want to reach out to the separated parents who are struggling to make a co-parenting relationship work simply because they've failed at a love relationship. I aim to inspire healing and encourage forgiveness in a way that my readers can laugh and cry as they relate to my experiences," she said.
She is the founder of Wise Maidens Network, an organization that supports and empowers single mothers to discover and unleash their potential. She's a Marketplace Ministry Institute graduate and transformational speaker who is passionate about issues affecting single mothers, relationships and young women. "My mission is to live a life of friendship to help those who are broken-hearted and emotionally wounded to restore hope and reignite the spark for life and God," she said.
Those interested in the book can phone her on 083 470 1534. She is also available on Facebook as Tintswalo Christian Nkuna.
Tintswalo Christian Nkuna with her book Single, Again. Photo supplied.
The 22-year-old Mbulaheni (Gary) Ridovhona has been passionate about journalism to the extent that he would buy himself a copy of weekly Univen students' newsletter, Our Voice. After reading, he would write stories about his rural village, Mamvuka, and submit them to the very newsletter for publication. His deep-rooted love for words and writing saw him register for a Bachelor of Arts in Media Studies at the University of Venda, and joined the Limpopo Mirror team in February 2016 as a journalism intern.